by Sunil Bali, 08-12-13
Do you remember playing pass the parcel as a child? Holding onto the parcel and hoping that the music would stop whilst it’s in your hands. Hoping that you would get the big present in the middle of the parcel?
With both personal and business relationships we need to un-wrap the outer layers to get to the prize at the middle.
The world of business is overflowing with "professionals" who try to be pristine and perfect, but they come across as having suffered a charisma by pass and have as much depth as a cardboard cut out. It’s not about being professional, it’s about being authentic.
When you come from a place of authenticity doors open and people let you in.
When you speak your truth people will trust you.
When you open your heart, it gives permission to those around you to open their heart.
Your authenticity removes the wrapping and is the foundation to your brand.
Ps. I started writing this blog three years ago with a handful of subscribers.
On my website you can’t find my first years worth of blogs because they weren’t very good.
I used to write what I thought people wanted to read. Once I stopped editing my soul I found peace and a few more subscribers: 20,406 to be precise.
A heartfelt thank you for your support.
A man is at work one day, when he notices that his colleague, an accountant, is wearing an earring.
The guy knows that his colleague is normally a conservative chap, and is curious about his sudden change in "fashion sense."
So he walks up to him and says, "I didn’t know that you were into earrings."
"Don’t make such a big deal, it’s only an earring," he replies sheepishly.
The man falls silent for a few minutes, but then his curiosity prods him to ask, "So, how long have you been wearing an earring?"
"Ever since my wife found it in my car."
by Sunil Bali, 01-12-13
Research reveals that many successful people have an interesting strategy when it comes to dealing with rejection. Rather than worry about being rejected, they adopt a warrior like mentality and wear their scars of battle proudly.
They treat their rejections like badges of honour, to remind them of what they’ve been through and to keep persisting.
Author of 50 novels, Stephen King used this strategy when he first started writing. As a child, King was repeatedly rejected by publishers, but instead of throwing the rejection slips away, he hammered a nail into the wall above his bed and put all his rejections slips on it.
King said, "By the time I was fourteen, the nail in the wall would no longer support the weight of the rejection slips impaled on it. So I replaced the nail with a spike and went on writing." To date, Stephen King has sold over 350 million books.
Most writers can tell you how many rejections they’ve had. Marketing guru and author of 17 best sellers Seth Godin says, "I had 950 rejection letters before I sold my first book."
The crime writer Ed McBain (aka Evan Hunter) sold over 100 million books before he died, but he too was no overnight sensation. McBain received enough rejections to paper the walls of his bathroom so that he could then laugh at all the people who said that his writing was crap!
All us humans were born as warriors not worriers, but for many the warrior in us has become buried under a mountain of learned negativity.
When the inevitable happens and one of your labours of love is rejected, what’s it to be: worrier or warrior?
Ps. the best angle to approach any angle is the TRYangle
Pps. once you throw your heart over the fence, others will follow you.
Round in a shot
Going to bed the other night, I noticed people in my shed stealing things.
I phoned the Police but was told that there was no one in the area to help.
They said that they would send someone over as soon as possible.
I hung up. A minute later I rang again. "Hello," I said, "I called you a minute ago because there were people in my shed. It’s OK, you don’t need to come now because I’ve shot them."
Within minutes there were half a dozen Police cars outside my house, an armed response unit and a Police helicopter overhead. They caught the burglars red-handed.
One of the Police officers said, "I thought you said that you had shot them."
To which I replied, "I thought you said that there was no one else available."
by Sunil Bali, 24-11-13
As I put my MBA notes onto the bonfire, I realised that I had learned more at Nursery School than I had at Business School.
I found more wisdom in the sandpit and paint pots than I ever did in the lecture theatre.
Here are 11 Lessons I learned from Nursery School:
1. Learn, create and play every day.
2. Share everything.
3. Play fair.
4. Clean up your own mess.
5. Say sorry when you’ve hurt somebody.
6. Holding a grudge is pointless – it’s like taking poison and hoping that the other person dies.
7. However bad a situation, in a few years time it won’t matter.
8. You feel better after a good sleep.
9. Look at the world and wonder…..
10. Whether you’re 3 or 53, life is so much better when you hold hands and stick together.
11. Go where there is excitement and stay where there is love.
(Hat tip to Glyn Morris)
1. Chef Gordon Ramsey to contestant: "You’ve used so much oil the US wants to invade the plate."
2. Ambiguity: what happens in vagueness stays in vagueness.
3. This one goes out all the amnesiacs out there and don’t think that you know who you are.
4. Sign on music shop door: Gone Chopin, (have Liszt), Bach in a Minuet.
5. To do is to be – Descartes
To be is to do – Voltaire
Do be do be do – Sinatra