To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing and be nothing …..

by Sunil Bali, 13-01-19

When he was growing up, Ted suffered from severe asthma. Too scared to play outside, he increasingly spent his time reading.

At school his grades were excellent, but his father noticed that his son was becoming ever more shy, introverted and the spark had left his beautiful blue eyes.

Finally, his father sat Ted down for a heart to heart and told him that if he did what he feared, then not only would the fear go away, but he would be much happier and stronger.

Ted took on board his father’s words and not only overcame his asthma, but went on to embrace what he called "the strenuous life" – a life filled with physical activity, adventure and action.

Teddy as he was better known, grew up to be a cowboy, conservationist, war hero, author…..oh and also President of the U.S.A. for 8 years.

My favourite saying of Theodore "Teddy" Roosevelt is stuck on the wall of my study and reads:

"never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory or defeat."



Everybody wants to change the world, but no one wants to change the toilet paper …..

Dear God, you gave me a childhood, you took it away.

You gave me a Youth, you took it away.

You gave me a Husband, it’s been years now, just reminding you …..


And finally, whilst all is well with me, I’m going to take a break from my weekly musings for a while.

So a huge, heartfelt thank you for allowing me the privilege of your Inbox and all your wonderful messages over the years.

My very best and warmest wishes to you.

Until we meet again …..


Live big & love deep.


Nauseatingly vacuous …..

by Sunil Bali, 06-01-19

The New Year has brought with it the usual tsunami of nauseatingly vacuous motivational quotes, banal self-help clichés and inane personal development truisms.

Yet despite this surge in advice from the well-intentioned but unlearned wounded healer community, when we look back at the end of 2019, it will be exactly the same as every other year in that,

  • some people will have done the work – spiritual, mental and physical – to make things happen, and got the results they wanted,
  • some people will have watched things happen, and
  • some people will ask, "What the hell happened?"

In 2019, I hope that your words are believed, your potential is fulfilled, and you get the results you dream of.



Q: How many people work at your company?

A: About half of them

  • An old couple are at church, when the wife leans across to her husband and whispers,
    "I’ve just let out a silent fart, what should I do?", to which he replies,
    "Change the battery in your hearing aid".
  • The writer of ‘The Hokey Cokey" song has died.
    It was a struggle getting him in the coffin.
    They put his left leg in, then the trouble started.


Live big & love deep.


Merry Fixmas …..

by Sunil Bali, 23-12-18

At the age of 21, Todd Rose was a high-school dropout struggling to support his wife and two small children. He was on state benefits and had worked his way through ten minimum wage jobs in two years.

Todd remembers his report cards at school which had a common thread and read, "He’s a little hyperactive and finds it difficult to fit in."

One day when he was at a very low ebb, blaming his school and teachers for his misfortune, Todd’s father – who had worked his way up from tea boy and floor cleaner to mechanical engineer – gave him some life changing advice:

"I’ve lived with you for 21 years Todd. You’re not lazy or stupid. You’re just fine the way you are,you don’t need fixing. You just need to find something that really interests you and someone to teach it to you." His dad’s words hit home so he enrolled in a series of human biology classes at his local college.

Todd found the psychology classes gripping, not least because he realized that school had not worked out because he was outside the range of the average, normal student and as such, not catered for.

The reality is that no one is actually completely average and has at least one skill or talent, be that as yet undeveloped, which is well above average.

In a world that has perpetuated the cult of the average and valued sameness, conformity is losing its grip on the reins as authenticity and exceptions rule.

There’s one thing that you’re a world champion at. No one does it better than you. You’re the best at being you. And when you’re being your best self, your world will transform from a round hole to the shape of your square peg.


Ps. Todd is now 42 years old and Professor of Education at Harvard.

Pps. You believed in Santa for a few years, so how about believing in yourself for a few weeks and see what happens.



In preparation for Xmas remember to set your scales back 10 pounds.

I was staying in a hotel last night.
Before I went to bed, I phoned down to reception.

"Hi, this is room 317. Can I have a wake-up call, please?"

The receptionist replied, "Yes. You’re fat, in your 40′s and given you’re staying in such a cheap hotel probably haven’t achieved much in your life."


Boss: Do you believe in the afterlife?

Employee: No I don’t, because there’s no proof.

Boss: So if I could prove to you that there is life after death, would you believe in the afterlife?

Employee: If you could prove it 100%, then I would believe in life after death.

Boss: OK. Here’s the proof. After you left early yesterday to go to your Uncle’s funeral, he came here looking for you to go and play golf.


And finally, thank you so much for letting me into your Inbox this year.

I’m truly humbled and grateful that my musings are worthy of your attention.

See you on 6th Jan.

Have a very,

And remember that it’s not what’s under the Xmas tree that matters, it’s whose around it.


Live big & love deep.


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