It started with a kiss …..

by Sunil Bali. 21-01-2018

Can you remember your first date with your spouse or a partner? Can you remember how you felt?

Butterflies in the stomach, can’t wait to see them?

But after while the ardour fades doesn’t it, and we don’t hang off our partners every word.

This is also true of business relationships so that’s why we need to keep it fresh and let our customers, colleagues and loved ones know that we care about them and appreciate them.

In over 30 years of business, I’ve never come across anyone who has ever told me that they feel over appreciated!

Research at the Berkeley University of California shows that if you add a little "gr" to your attitude, then it will help to "find, remind and bind" you to the people that will enrich your life and help you get the results you want.

The researchers also found that gratitude:

  • is expansive as it broadens your thinking and increases perspective which leads to
  • increased creativity, better problem solving and
  • is contagious and lifts and energizes those it touches – we all prefer positive, enthusiastic people as opposed to members of the BMW Club (bitching, moaning and whining)

So who do you know that needs a hand written note (one of the most effective ways of expressing gratitude) reminding them how you feel about them?

And next time someone you like is a little prickly and rubs you up the wrong way, remember that you always have a choice how you respond: you can either complain because rose bushes have thorns, or you can be grateful that thorn bushes have roses.



Every weekend I say to myself, "Sarah. You’ve got to stop drinking so much wine."

Luckily, I’m not Sarah.


Its when the young person wearing a suit and tie:

  • elbows me when we were getting on the Tube train
  • tells me to get lost when I complain, and
  • who has now turned up for his interview

….. with me.


Live big & love deep.


The fastest swim ever …..

by Sunil Bali 14-01-2018

Five years ago Trent Grimsey swam the English Channel in a time of 6 hours and 55 minutes. It remains the fastest Channel swim ever.

After his epic swim, Trent was asked whether this was his greatest ever achievement.

Trent replied, "Not really. Learning to swim as a kid was my greatest achievement. Swimming didn’t come naturally to me and I almost gave up."

He added, "The problem was that I was trying to swim the whole length of the pool in one go. Once I mastered swimming one metre, I aimed for 2m then 5m, then 10m, then 25m and kept going until today, when I swam 21 miles."

Harvard researcher Teresa Amabile has found that making small, daily progress is the most powerful way to sustain momentum. Her research reveals that the most damaging thing to achieving big goals is to experience setbacks.

Psychologists refer to this effect as the goal gradient: the closer you get to something, the harder you’re willing to work to achieve it.

It would appear that we humans are more motivated by how much is left to reach our target, rather than how far we have come.



  • If you combine "wine" and "dinner" you get winner.
  • I have neither the time or the crayons to explain why you’re wrong.
  • When I heard they had found a cure for dyslexia, it was music to my ar5e.


Live big & love deep.


Nauseatingly vacuous …..

by Sunil Bali 07-01-2018

The New Year has brought with it the usual tsunami of nauseatingly vacuous motivational quotes, banal self-help clichés and inane personal development truisms.

Yet despite this surge in advice from the well-intentioned but unlearned wounded healer community, when we look back at the end of 2018, it will be exactly the same as every other year in that,

  • some people will have done the work – spiritual, mental and physical – to make things happen, and got the results they wanted,
  • some people will have watched things happen, and
  • some people will ask, "What the hell happened?"

In 2018, I hope that your words are believed, your potential is fulfilled, and you get the results you dream of.



A doctor on his morning walk, noticed a wrinkled old lady sitting on her front step smoking a cigar, with a huge smile on her face.

"I couldn’t help but notice how happy you look! What’s your secret?" asked the doctor.

"Every day I smoke ten cigars, drink a bottle of wine and eat pizzas and burgers. I’ve never done any exercise since the day I left school," replied the old lady.

"That’s absolutely amazing! You must have inherited some great genes. May I ask how old you are?" asked the doctor.

"Thirty-four," she replied.


Live big & love deep.


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