Why do we give a Friar Tuck …..

by Sunil Bali, 21-10-18

How many people do you think will cry at your funeral?

10, 20, ….. 30 maybe?

It’s been estimated that around 12-15 people cry at the average funeral.

Why then do we give a Friar Tuck about the opinion of countless others?

The answer lies a mere 20,000 years ago in the Paleolithic or Stone Age.

Back then, our caveman ancestors had to be part of a small tribe if they were to survive. A tribe meant access to more food and greater protection. So being accepted by the tribe, especially those in authority, was critical.

Being rejected by, or worse still getting kicked out by the tribe, resulted in a dramatically shortened lifespan. Being socially accepted was everything.

In short, our bodies and minds are built to live in a small tribe in 20,000BC.

That’s why we humans have evolved an obsession with what others think of us.

A craving for social approval which tragically silences our authentic voice.

In the 21st century we need to work on our own agenda and not respond to someone else’s.

So tell me, whose opinion do you need to stop caring about?



Put downs by comedians to hecklers:

I’m sorry can’t understand what you’re saying. I’m wearing a moron filter – Arthur Smith

Your bus leaves in 10 minutes. Be under it – John Cooper Clarke

What are you so angry about? Has the price of Play Dough gone up? – Henning Wehn

Well it’s a night out for him and a night off for his family – Jack Dee

Pay attention madam and you’ll realise that we have several things in common, not just the beard– Markus Birdman


Live big & love deep.



Born to be wild …..

by Sunil Bali, 14-10-18

Professor of Psychology, Ed Diener, says that "The aim of life is to die young as late as possible."

Here are a few tips on how to do just that:

  1. If you take a £20 note, crumple it up, throw it on the floor, and tread on it a few times, it may be a little dirty and the worst for wear, but it hasn’t lost any of its value. The same is true of you. Remember, what happens to you doesn’t change your value.
  2. Whatever life you have in you, express it. If you have the urge to bake cakes, do stand up comedy, or run a marathon ….. overcome the inertia and do it. The act of expression increases present moment awareness, flow, and therefore happiness.
  3. Take a risk, change your routine and do something which makes your soul soar. Sleep replenishes a tired mind and body, but sleep doesn’t help if its your soul that’s tired.
  4. Make sure that everyday you love someone, believe in something and hope for something. When you’re crystal clear on your why the how tends to show up.
  5. Get outside and get lost in nature because this is our true nature. In evolutionary terms, it wasn’t that long ago that we lived in caves. Humans have become too domesticated and were born to be wild. There maybe no wifi in the forest, but you will find a better connection.



A woman applies for a job in a lemon grove.
"Have you any experience of picking lemons?" asked the foreman.

"I certainly have," replied the woman.

"I’ve been married three times."

Two friends were in the wine section at their local supermarket and one said to the other, "How much do you normally spend on a bottle of wine?"
"About an hour," the friend replied.

My boss asked me, "Do you believe in life after death?"
"Yes," I replied.

"I thought you would," he said. "Yesterday after you left to go to your grandmother’s funeral, she phoned the office asking for you."


Live big & love deep.



Greynaissance …..

by Sunil Bali, 07-10-18

It was my birthday last week. It’s reached the stage where the candles cost more than the cake.

In my greynaissance period, I find that simplicity keeps me happy and the words of the impressionist painter Philip Hoffman resonate ever more loudly: "I eliminate the unnecessary, so that the necessary may speak."

After all, there are only seven colours in the rainbow and look what Michelangelo did with these.

And there are only seven notes in music, but this didn’t stop Mozart from creating his masterpieces.

I think Leonardo da Vinci was right when he said that, "Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication."



  • While cooking I accidentally rubbed some herbs in my eyes ….. now I’m parsley sighted.
  • I was delighted when the Tax authorities wrote to me and said that my tax return was "outstanding," especially since I don’t even remember sending it in.
  • A man has been shot with a starter pistol, police thinks it’s race related.

A doctor on his morning walk, noticed a wrinkled old lady sitting on her front step smoking a cigar, with a huge smile on her face. "I couldn’t help but notice how happy you look! What’s your secret?" asked the doctor.

"Every day I smoke ten cigars, drink a bottle of wine and eat pizzas and burgers. I’ve never done any exercise since the day I left school," replied the old lady.

"That’s absolutely amazing! You must have inherited some great genes. May I ask how old you are?" asked the doctor.

"Thirty-four," she replied.


Live big & love deep.



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