Absolutely Fabulous …..

by Sunil Bali 24-12-2017

David Attenborough says that all animals – apart from humans – move away very quickly from predatory behavior and toxic environments.

Pollute its water and a fish will quickly move to clean water with the best oxygen level.

Catching a wild animal with just your bare hands is extremely difficult.

But when it comes to us humans, we have a much higher tolerance for mental leeches, psychic vampires and dream stealers.

Bestselling author and productivity guru Tim Ferriss says, “If you want the story of your life to be a happy one, edit your life frequently and ruthlessly."

This includes removing toxic people, toxic thoughts and toxic behaviour ….. I used to be particularly good at eating large quantities of cheese and onion crisps, but ditched this habit.

I’ll leave the last word to “Absolutely Fabulous” actor Joanna Lumley, who says, “Love everyone you meet from the moment you meet them. Most people will be lovely and love you back, and you can achieve the most wonderful things. But get rid of any of the b@stards that let you down."

….. Warm heart, iron will.



I was staying in a hotel last night.

Before I went to bed, I phoned down to reception.

“Hi, this is room 317. Can I have a wake-up call, please?"

The receptionist replied, “Yes. You’re fat, in your 40′s and given you’re staying in such a cheap hotel probably haven’t achieved much in your life."

Boss: Do you believe in the afterlife?

Employee: No I don’t, because there’s no proof.

Boss: So if I could prove to you that there is life after death, would you believe in the afterlife?

Employee: If you could prove it 100%, then I would believe in life after death.

Boss: OK. Here’s the proof. After you left early yesterday to go to your Uncle’s funeral, he came here looking for you to go and play golf.

And finally, thank you so much for letting me into your Inbox this year.

I’m truly humbled and grateful that my musings are worthy of your attention.

See you on 7th Jan.

Have a very,

And remember that it’s not what’s under the Xmas tree that matters, it’s whose around it.


Live big & love deep.



Merry Fixmas …..

by Sunil Bali 17-12-2017

Thanks to Jo for reminding me of the story of Todd Rose.

At the age of 21, Todd Rose was a high-school dropout struggling to support his wife and two small children. He was on state benefits and had worked his way through ten minimum wage jobs in two years.

Todd remembers his report cards at school which had a common thread and read, "He’s a little hyperactive and finds it difficult to fit in."

One day when he was at a very low ebb, blaming his school and teachers for his misfortune, Todd’s father – who had worked his way up from tea boy and floor cleaner to mechanical engineer – gave him some life changing advice:

"I’ve lived with you for 21 years Todd. You’re not lazy or stupid. You’re just fine the way you are, you don’t need fixing. You just need to find something that really interests you and someone to teach it to you."

His dad’s words hit home so he enrolled in a series of human biology classes at his local college.

Todd found the psychology classes gripping, not least because he realized that school had not worked out because he was outside the range of the average, normal student and as such, not catered for.

The reality is that no one is actually completely average and has at least one skill or talent, be that as yet undeveloped, which is well above average.

In a world that has perpetuated the cult of the average and valued sameness, conformity is losing its grip on the reins as authenticity and exceptions rule.

There’s one thing that you’re a world champion at. No one does it better than you. You’re the best at being you. And when you’re being your best self, your world will transform from a round hole to the shape of your square peg.

Ps. Todd is now 42 years old and Professor of Education at Harvard.



The Top 20 Book Titles of the Year:

The Long Drop – by Eileen Dover

Empty Cage – by Freda Bird

The Dirty Dozen – by Yu Flung Dung

The Race to the Outhouse – by Willie Makit, with illustrations by Betty Dont.

How to improve your Garden – by Mo Delawn

Danger – by Luke Out

Bottoms Up – by Hugh Jass

Downpour – by Wayne Dwops

Enter – by Doris Open

Falling Trees – by Tim Burr

The Yellow River – by I.P. Freely

Hitting the Wall – by Isadore There

The World of Insurance – by Justin Case

The Great Escape – by Freda Convict

Spaghetti Recipes – by Al Dente

Better Beer Making – by Bud Wiser

The Life of a Cloakroom Attendant – by Mahatma Coate

Fly on the Windscreen – by S. Platt

House Cleaning – by Manuel Labour

Dangerous Driving – by Pastor Redlight


Live big & love deep.



Giorgio Armani on being remembered …..

by Sunil Bali 10-12-2017

Giorgio Armani said, "Elegance is not about being noticed, it’s about being remembered."

The one thing that great people have in common is that people talk about them behind their back – in glowing terms. They have a magnetic quality which attracts and softens the most hardened and cynical of souls.

In my experience, great people are remembered because:

- They are remarkable, defn. worthy of making a remark about.

- They don’t add to the noise, they are the signal.

- They’re not "chewing gum leaders" – their impact doesn’t disappear after a few minutes.

- They leave people better than when they found them.

If you pick up a glass you’ll leave a fingerprint. When you meet people you leave an emotional fingerprint.

What’s your emotional fingerprint? What do people say about you when you’re not in the room? How do you make people feel?



  • My son said, I’m going to be a chimney sweep….. I said soot yourself.
  • Insomnia is awful. But on the plus side, only three sleeps till Xmas.
  • A man has been shot with a starter pistol, police thinks it’s race related.


Live big & love deep.



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