The only path to serenity……
April 29th, 2012 | Follow me on Twitter
Apr 29th
by Sunil Bali, 29-04-12
Here’s a riddle for you.
Three little birds are sitting on a branch of a tree.
Two decide to fly away.
How many birds are left?
Answer: Three…..deciding and doing aren’t the same thing.
There’s a $20 Billion industry out there telling us how to be more successful. So you would expect to be falling over successful people on every street corner.
But the facts are that 1 in 4 of us will suffer some sort of mental illness during the course of our life and half the world’s wealth is owned by 2% of the population.
The problem is that when all is said and done, a lot more is said than done.
To paraphrase bestselling author and founder of Human Business Works, Chris Brogan, a “can do” attitude will take you so far, but what you also need is a “did do” attitude.
Whether its fear of failure, perfectionism, or procrastination, consistent action in the direction of your dreams will overcome these obstacles.
Action is everything.
The Latin word satis means enough. When you take enough action you’ll get satisfaction.
Quotes
The world is moving so fast these days that the man who says it can’t be done is generally interrupted by someone doing it – Harry Emerson Fosdick
A good plan executed, is far better than a perfect plan carried out next week – General Patton
You can’t build a reputation on what you’re going to do – Henry Ford
People who wait for something to turn up might start with their own shirt sleeves – Unknown
There are two ways to reach the top of an oak tree. You can climb it or sit on an acorn and wait – Unknown
Do your work, then step back. The only path to serenity – Lao Tzu
Humour
The Four Cats
Four men were bragging about how smart their cats were.
The first man was an Engineer, the second man an Accountant, the third a Chemist, and the fourth was a Trade Union Leader.
To show off, the Engineer called to his cat, "T-square, do your stuff."
T-square pranced over to the desk, took out some paper and pen and promptly drew a circle, a square, and a triangle.
Everyone agreed that was pretty smart.
But the Accountant said his cat could do better. He called his cat and said,
"Spreadsheet, do your stuff."
Spreadsheet went out to the kitchen and returned with a dozen cookies. He divided them into 4 equal piles of 3 cookies.
Everyone agreed that was good.
But the Chemist said his cat could do better. He called his cat and said, "Measure, do your stuff."
Measure got up, walked to the fridge, took out a bottle of milk, got a glass from the cupboard and filled it to the top without spilling a drop.
Everyone agreed that was pretty good.
Then the three men turned to the Trade Union Leader who called his cat and said, "Coffee Break, do your stuff."
Coffee Break jumped to his feet…….
ate the cookies……..
drank the milk…….
sh*t on the paper…….
screwed the other three cats…….
claimed he injured his back while doing so…….
filed a grievance report for unsafe working conditions…….
put in for Workers Compensation……………and
went home for the rest of the day on sick leave.
To your success,
Sunil
The Secret of being Miserable
April 22nd, 2012 | Follow me on Twitter
Apr 22nd
by Sunil Bali, 22-04-12
Let me give you two imaginary tasks.
Task A.
Walk from one end of a wooden beam to the other. The beam is on the floor and is twenty feet long, twelve inches thick and twelve inches wide.
How do you feel about the task: pretty straightforward? I guess you could do it without any hesitation?
Task B.
Walk along the same beam. This time the beam is suspended 100 feet above the pavement between two buildings.
How do you feel this time? Has the thought of falling entered your mind? Maybe a little fear, doubt and not quite so relaxed?
So where is your focus now? Has it shifted from being totally focussed on walking to the other end of the board?
If your focus has shifted by even one or two per cent, then you won’t have the optimum mindset to perform the task.
Research clearly shows that great performers can focus on their performance to the exclusion of everything else. They can engage so completely in the task at hand, that there simply isn’t any room for self-doubt, fear of failure or wanting to give up.
Any sense of self-doubt, or wanting to give up, is usually a signal that you need to get out of your own way and give more…..more energy, more commitment, more focus…..because it’s only the focussed who flourish.
Quotes
The awakened sages call a person wise when all his undertakings are free from anxiety about results – Bhagavad Gita
The mature human being goes about doing what needs to be done regardless of whether that person feels great or terrible. Knowing that you are the kind of person with that kind of self-control brings all the satisfaction and confidence you will ever need – David Reynolds
People who strive for something personally significant, whether it’s learning a new craft, changing careers, or raising moral children, are far happier than those who don’t have strong dreams or aspirations. Find a happy person, and you will find a project – Professor Sonia Lyubomirsky
Why should the way I feel be dependent upon the thoughts in someone else’s head? – Emerson
The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not – George Bernard Shaw
Humour
Immigration Control
The German Chancellor, Angela Merkel, arrives at Passport Control at Athens International Airport.
Nationality …?" barks out the Immigration Officer."
"German", she responds.
"Occupation …?" continues the Officer.
"No, just here for a few days …!!!!!"
Food for thought…..
If lawyers are disbarred and clergymen defrocked, then doesn’t it follow that electricians can be delighted, musicians denoted, cowboys deranged, models deposed, tree surgeons debarked, and dry cleaners depressed?
If 4 out of 5 people SUFFER from diarrhoea…does that mean that one out of five enjoys it?
If people from Poland are called Poles, then why aren’t people from Holland called Holes?
If a pig loses its voice, is it disgruntled?
As we’ve just started a new tax year, have you ever noticed that when you put the two words "The" and "IRS" together, it spells "THEIRS"?
If FedEx and UPS were to merge, would they call it FedUP?
Why isn’t the number 11 pronounced onety-one?
Do workers at a tea plantation take "coffee breaks?"
If a cow laughed, would milk come out of its nose?
To your success,
Sunil
The 10 Commandments of Charismatic people……
April 15th, 2012 | Follow me on Twitter
Apr 15th
by Sunil Bali, 15-04-12
In an excess economy attention is scarce. If you don’t get noticed you’re out. In order to thrive in this hyper competitive environment you need to get personal and become a magnet for people’s hearts and minds.
It’s often thought that in order to have a magnetic personality you have to be an extrovert or naturally charismatic. This simply isn’t true.
The key to capturing your audience’s attention is to first pay attention to them and remember that two monologues don’t make a dialogue.
Of course, we can all think of people who are naturally appealing or charismatic, but can you think of a person who cares about you, understands you and who always helps you, that you don’t like?
One of the most magnetic people I know is an introvert who cares about everyone she meets. She’s a great listener and always says something that’s interesting, valuable, or which makes you feel good. You won’t hear her complaining, tellinyou how great she is (and she really is very successful) or putting others down.
Here are the 10 Commandments of Charismatic people. Charismatic people,
1. Are grateful for your time and attention
2. Focus on you and not themselves
3. Ask engaging questions
4. Actively listen – guys, when it comes to your better half, apparently nodding your head feigning interest isn’t enough! She needs to have the experience of being listened to and feel that she’s been heard.
5. Are helpful
6. Like to have fun
7. Are positive
8. Don’t take themselves too seriously
9. Are open to new ideas
10. Are honest
If you’ve got a great attitude towards other people, then they’ll want to hear what you have to say and spend time with you.
A bad attitude on the other hand is like bad breath: if you have one, people will avoid you and they probably won’t tell you why.
Quotes
Sometimes we need to detach ourselves from others, sometimes we need to tune in to others. The people who thrive are the people that can do both – Sunil Bali
There have been great societies that did not use the wheel, but there have been no societies that did not tell stories – Ursula Le Guin
The keys to the kingdom are changing hands. Being an expert is no longer enough. The ability to forge relationships now determines who flourishes and who flounders – Daniel Pink
We love buying but hate being sold to. So be in the relationship before the sale – Greg Cangialosi
Humour
The Mexican Maid
The Mexican maid asked for a pay rise.
The Missus was very upset about this and decided to talk to her about the completely unjustified raise.
Mrs: "Now Maria, just why do you want a pay increase?"
Maria: "Well, Senora, there are tree reeezons why I wanna increeze. The first is that I iron better than you …"
Mrs: "And just Who said you iron better than me …?"
Maria: "Jor huzban … he say so …".
Mrs: "Oh yeah …?!!"
Maria: "The second reason eez that I am a better cook than you …"
Mrs: "Nonsense, what utter rubbish; and Who said you were a better cook than me …?"
Maria: "Jor hozban … he did say so …"
Mrs, increasingly agitated: "Oh he did, did he …???"
Maria: "The third reason is that I am better in bed than you…"
Mrs, really boiling now, and through gritted teeth: "And, did my husband say that as well …?"
Maria: "No Senora … The gardener did …"
Mrs: "So how much of a raise were you wanting …?"
To your success,
Sunil
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