by Sunil Bali, 18-10-15

We are more connected, yet more alone.

Research shows that the very highest users of Facebook tend to feel less satisfied with life, are less happy and more lonely.

Further research by evolutionary psychologist Professor Robin Dunbar shows that the happiest people actually have fewer close friends and family (15 to 20 people), fewer nonversations, but more deep conversations.

Dunbar found that the happiest people were the least easily distracted from their most important tasks, and also tended to be the most successful and fulfilled.

The happiest people were also found to have less chewing gum conversations i.e., the impact of their conversation lasted more than a few minutes.

Where as individuals who had a habit of socially snacking, with the largest number of superficial nonversations, were also the most emotionally undernourished and least successful.

Whilst I might not have been quite so direct, I do agree with actress Helen Mirren’s sentiment, who when asked on her 70th birthday what advice she would give her younger self replied.

"The older I’ve become, the more I realise that when it comes to friends and relationships it’s more about quality than quantity. In hindsight, I should have used the words **ck off more often."


A cat goes to the vet feeling very unwell.

The vet does a thorough examination.

He then turns to the cat and with a grave face says,

"I’m afraid its bad news. It’s curiosity."


I was walking by the riverbank when I heard splashing in front of me.

My local member of parliament was thrashing around in the water.

I’m not a fan of his given the damage that he and his like have done to my country, but he was clearly in some distress and looked as if he might drown.

So I did the right thing and contacted the emergency services.

Half an hour later and still no help had arrived.

I couldn’t help thinking that I had wasted a stamp.